So I was thinking.. and I wanted to write down a conclusion, not a "happy end" conclusion but one that unfortunately creates us as people. We all got in relationships faster, slower.. more or less in love, more or less involved but there are endings that leave us with good memories and another brick added to our wall. the wall of our personality. No matter how hard we wanna show the opposite and show that we don't care, that we got over things and pretend at some point that it almost didn't even exist.. The truth of the matter is that everything did exist and 99% of the things that we lived with the other person, no matter if those experiences were good or bad were experiences that came as consequences of what we did or say, the good part here is - going away from the blame game- it's the same for both partners.
so here are the steps that may lead to a relationship that turned to only an experience:
1. get a girlfriend/boyfriend
2. fall in love
3. rush things
4. tell each other how much you love each other just to find out later that it was very rushed and unthought
5.plan things like adults do, no matter that one of you actually does what he says
6. move together in the first 3-6 months
7. love each other even more and feel the comfort of doing whatever you want, when you want
8. start to get to know each other better
9. make fun of things that you don't like about each others personalities or routines
10. begin to feel that your personal space has been invaded, but that's ok
11. start to make even more plans together
12. start to see how the other person handles situations and mostly you at your worse
13. understand that the things that you thought makes the other person perfect are way less and less important than the things that you think he does wrong.
14. find out that you don't like to be handled and treated most of the time how you are treated
15. get bored
16. start fighting about cherries in front of a mall because you thought you can postpone the buying of cherries for 10 mins in order to buy yourself something that you need
17. go in a vacation that you've planned in the first 4 months
18. regret that you ruined your vacation by still wanting to work things out
19. get back from vacation and split up.
conclusion : every time when you want to move in with your sweetheart in the first 6 months, just don't and do not, I repeat do not trust anyone with everything even if you feel like he/she is the one.
